10 Questions Every Couple Should Ask Each Other
Remember the popular “36 Questions To Fall In Love” NYTimes article? Well, it inspired me to create a list of 10 Questions every couple should ask each other…
You can use this experience to deepen, connect, and even entertain yourselves. I wouldn’t say this is a tool to repair broken connections, but perhaps vulnerably sharing answers can create some space for eventual repair conversations.
And vulnerability can be sexy. Opportunities to connect like this sometimes have an unexpected impact in the bedroom as well.
If you’re anything like me, you might think you know what the other person might say, but they may surprise you. This tool is fantastic for getting to know one another (over and over again).
So now: Schedule your Questions Night, grab your favorite beverages, snuggle up in a nice blanket and get cozy, then begin the questions with each other…
If you have a day to yourself, how would you spend it?
What part of yourself are you working on?
Does having sex together make you feel closer to me, or does it make you feel something else?
Is there anything you want from me but have stopped asking?
What would you like to do but are afraid to ask?
What do you wish to see in a relationship?
What are your goals for our relationship?
What changes need to happen to reach those goals?
Is there anything you need from me that you have given up on getting?
Is there anything I'm doing or any way I'm being that's losing your respect?
Let me know how this exercise goes for you!
xxoo,
Lanae
P.S. One note of caution: Questions can be a good thing or a “bad thing” for your relationship, depending upon what the questions uncover. I know some folks avoid questions like these for fear of what they might reveal. You may find that you don’t have the same values. You may find that the person’s future view doesn’t match what you want in your life. Honestly, I look at those revelations as “good things,” though. If you come to the realization that you’re not a good fit, then hopefully you can still be friendly and respectful to each other.
Good questions!