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I started my business as a way to provide Sex Ed for Grownups. Some people seek out golf pros to up their game. Some people work with financial advisors to help plan their financial futures. I guess you could say I’m like a “sexual fiduciary,” acting in your best interest to help you improve your sex portfolio.
So, what does “A Day in the Life” of a Certified Sexologist in the Bay Area look like?
My favorite time of the day is bedtime when I get to snuggle in and reconnect with my partner Ragnar, so getting out of bed in the morning is probably the toughest thing for me to do in the entire day. My whole day - actually getting out of bed, physically out of bed is just... it's hard to do. I might wake up at 5:30 in the morning, but just because he's there, I will snuggle in and cuddle up against him and stay there, spoon-like, for maybe another hour. I guess you could say this is one of the benefits of working for yourself, that the boss can stay in bed as late as she wants. She’s just going to have to do the work much later that day.
The first thing I do when I get out of bed is scrape my tongue, brush my teeth, and splash my face with water. I'll do some face cleansing, and then I'll put on my face cream and head out to the kitchen.
While everyone else is getting ready, I boil some water to make tea. We don't drink much coffee at our house, but we love herbal teas. My favorite is Roiboos tea, if I’m feeling decadent, then I'll do it with sugar and cream, but mostly I have it just plain.
As the water is boiling, I'll walk into the living room. I open the shades because it's really important to me to let the sunshine in and greet the morning.
Once everyone is out of the house, I'll sit down and meditate. I do that for like 15 minutes to half an hour. Then I finish getting ready for the day. After that, it’s time to dive into work.
This next part was challenging during covid when we were all locked down together because no one else liked it as much as I did. I have a habit of listening to brain-calming music or Tibetan singing bowls tuned to whatever chakra. It sounds super woo as I'm writing this…but that's pretty much what gets me to sit down at my desk and start writing or working on whatever is up for the day.
Once I’m at my desk, I have a few business tools I use on a daily basis.
The Essential Calendar is how I juggle my work, partner, kids, and all the commitments in my life. Having a three-month view of life has transformed the way I plan and prioritize. (You can use code THEMAMASUTRA to get a discount when you buy yours too). Shop now.
Jasper AI. Okay, admittedly, the topic of sex is impossible to use with this tool, but if you’re not in my field, you’re going to LOVE this. Every day, I am blown away by the capabilities of this tool. It’s an AI writing assistant that helps me with outlines, and SEO, and product descriptions; oh my! It cuts my marketing writing time in half. I even had it read my second book, and it gave me back a really great synopsis in like 12 seconds. I can’t rave about this tool enough. Try it here.
MoonPod. This one might seem silly but hear me out. My coaching business relies on me, so if I’m stressed out, it affects my work. I love the MoonPod as a great way to chill out, relax, and even work from a cozy position. You won’t regret investing in one of these. Shop for your MoonPod here.
Books. I’m a sexuality book collector, and I’ve even written two books now (the second one will be coming out soon!) Part of running a business where I share knowledge involves being a constant learner myself. You can browse some of the books I like here (I still have more to add!).
Canva templates. I rely on Canva for all my graphic design needs. That’s why when I came across The Template Tribe, I knew I’d struck gold. The Template Tribe offers tons of templates that you can load into Canva and customize for your brand. Get started with The Template Tribe here.
Outside of work, in terms of physical activity, if I do get time in the morning, I'll usually either go for a nice little brisk, two-mile walk listening to a podcast (Smartless has me LOL, seriously). Or I have a rebounder, the little trampoline. So I'll jump on that for a little while to move that lymph. During Covid, I bought a water rowing machine. This is really serene because you hear the sound of the water (Add or remove water for more or less resistance).
That's everything for me for my work day until I get to climb back into bed, my favorite part of the day!
I would love to know now what your daily routines are like. I know a lot of you are parents, so I am curious if there are pieces of your day that you could not do without like your day just would not flow if X, Y, or Z were missing. Share those things with me if you would. I’d love to know!