Getting Better with Age

How Intimacy Enhances Over Time in Adulthood

Our current culture thinks sex should be limited to reproductive purposes—and fails to acknowledge that sex is equally healthy after 40, 50, 60, and on and on.

The truth? I’ve heard many times from my sexologist colleagues that sex only gets better as we age.

As a 50-something myself, I can offer my own support of that view but don’t just take my word for it! There are plenty of sex positive resources to support this – many of whom are also graduates from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, like me. Anita Hoffer, Gina Ogden, & Betty Dodson are just a few. 

My favorite current example is Jane Fonda, age 74, who recently did an interview where she shared happiness, sexual satisfaction, and having found “true intimacy” with her current partner. Can I just say, that’s f’ing beautiful? 

The depth of Jane’s experience includes communication, consent, respect, pleasure, and I’d bet there’s a healthy dose of fantasy present as well…

So, today I want to tackle the question: why do so many people have a hard time accepting others who are older being sexual? – while at the same time asserting that we plan to be sexual when we reach that ripe age?

Sex is a very healthy aspect of our adult life and such a tremendous part of who we are in general – why would we think that would change as others get older?

It’s SO important to understand how sexuality changes with age. I’ve outlined all the stages for you here so you can know everything there is to know.

Ultimately, your sexuality is a lifelong journey, shifting with your needs, experiences, and the rhythms of your body. Embracing these changes with open arms can lead to a fulfilling, rewarding life, at any age.

Let’s move away from celebrating youth as the only true source of “beauty and perfection”. Let’s be kinder to ourselves and embrace the aging process especially as it relates to sex.

Love the wrinkles. Embrace the gray hair (ok, admittedly I’m working on this one…).

And if you have children, help them understand that sex between two lovers can be a beautiful thing… and just like the animals they see having sex in the zoo, grandmas and grandpas do it too. ;)

xxoo,
Lanae

P.S. Want to read more of what I’ve been writing lately? Here’s a few other articles for you to browse:

When To Talk To Kids About Sex

How To Increase Female Libido: Tips for Rekindling Passion

How To Have Better Orgasms That Are Stronger And Longer