If I Hear “What Do You Bring to the Table” One More Time…
How transactional thinking keeps us all from feeling truly seen
Every time I hear someone ask, “What do you bring to the table?” I want to flip the damn thing over, stomp on it, and throw it out the window.
That question has become the go-to mic-drop in dating podcasts and online debates. It’s smug. It’s lazy. And it’s built on a lie.
Let’s talk about it.
What That Phrase Really Means
When someone asks “What do you bring to the table?”, they’re not actually curious.
They’re setting up a scoreboard.
Translation:
“Convince me you deserve me.”
It implies that love, partnership, and connection can be itemized like a grocery list.
This isn’t two people meeting as equals. It’s one person auditioning for approval.
And that’s why it hits so deep.
The Real Problem Isn’t the Table. It’s the Math.
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