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Oops, We Never Talked About That

My Boundary Blunders in Relationships

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Lanae St.John
Apr 18, 2024
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I’ve got an “Oops, We Never Talked About That” story that might just make you go, “Been there!” So, let's talk about something we often tiptoe around in relationships – boundaries. 

That Time I ‘Cheated’... Or Did I?

Picture this: I’m in what I thought was a post-breakup phase. You know, chatting with new people, feeling free. But here’s the plot twist – my ex-boyfriend (he still thought we were a thing) was pretty shocked. Why? We started to see each other again but didn’t have the “Are we exclusive?” talk. It was a classic case of assumed boundaries, leading to a mix-up that felt like a sitcom episode but was way less funny.

We Were On A Break!" | Friends Central | Fandom

Assumptions are Sneaky Gremlins

This experience was my wake-up call. I learned the hard way that assuming you're on the same page with your partner can lead to drama. Big drama. The key?

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