Overcoming Sexual Shame and Guilt
Break Free from Societal Stigma and Embrace Self-Acceptance for a Fulfilling Sex Life
Raise your hand if you have ever been on the receiving end of slut-shaming. 🙋🏻♀️
Ugh, it feels awful, right? Slut-shaming is a crappy way to control and shame people, especially women, for their sexuality. Even though some men experience this, too, women are primarily the targets. My kids can tell you it starts as early as 6th grade.
Dr. Ted McIlvenna, president of IASHS, used to say to us, “If you control someone’s sexuality, you control them completely.” Human beings have found pretty hard-hitting ways of doing this.
Since it's Pride month, let's confront sexual shame and guilt head-on. Many of us struggle with these feelings, but here's the thing: it's not because there's something wrong with you. Nope, it's society's messed-up influence.
(Now, if you're open to growth, take a moment to think about how you judge others. Our society is full of unfair judgments and stereotypes about sexuality. But let's break that cycle. Empathy, understanding, and embracing diverse sexual expressions are what we're aiming for. Let's create a world that respects everyone's choices!)
So, here are some steps to ditch that shame and guilt:
Educate yourself about sex and human sexuality from reliable sources. Bust those misconceptions and stigma that might be lurking.
Surround yourself with supportive and understanding folks who respect your journey of self-discovery. Find communities that celebrate sexual expression without judgment.
Be kind to yourself. Your experiences and challenges with sexuality are unique. Embrace self-compassion and know that it's okay to feel the way you do.
Consider seeking guidance from sexologists or therapists who specialize in working with those who've experienced sexual trauma. They can help you navigate complex feelings in a safe and supportive space.
Talk openly and honestly with your partner(s) about boundaries, desires, and any past traumas. Clear communication builds trust and creates a consensual sexual connection.
Remember, your sexuality is a beautiful and natural part of who you are. Embrace self-acceptance and self-love to break free from shame and guilt and enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
xxoo,
Lanae
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