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The Secret Sauce to Lasting Relationships?
It's Not What You Think!
You know those movie scenes where two starry-eyed lovers lock eyes across the room and bam! — instant electrifying connection? Is that 'movie magic' all there is to lasting love? Let's explore.
Yeah sure, we've been fed that narrative a thousand times. But for real, lasting relationships: Attraction is your appetizer, shared values are the main course.
I recently had a discovery call with someone who opened up about his journey through multiple marriages. He candidly shared that in his younger years, he placed a significant emphasis on attraction, almost missing out on something crucial - as it turns out, the real magic, the secret sauce, all boiled down to aligning values.
It's a story that resonates deeply. Contrary to what we might be led to believe, relationships aren't built solely on “chemistry” and attraction. The foundation is formed by values that align, goals that sync, and aspirations that harmonize.
Beyond the Spark and into the Essence
Sure, sparks flying around like a fireworks display is a great kickoff to any love story. It’s the heartbeat-racing, butterfly-inducing magic that writes itself in those first lines of a romance novel.
But honey, let me tell you, the blockbuster love story unfolds in the unison of shared dreams, echoed laughter over silly inside jokes, and that warm, fuzzy feeling when you realize, "Hey, this person gets me!”
Think of your relationship like a vintage wine; it has so much potential to get better and better with time, care, and a solid foundation of shared values and aspirations. And if you’ve been to this particular vineyard, erm, Substack, before, my 5 Building Blocks to a Healthy Sexuality—Communication, Consent, Respect, Pleasure, & Fantasy—can be the soil that nourishes the emotional and romantic grapes to full ripeness. (okay, all done with that analogy. 😜)
Click below to see more about the key to the enduring love story: shared values.
Now, it’s your turn! Share your 'Ah-ha!' moment when you realized shared values were key. Your story could be the nudge someone else needs.
Until next time…
Resources for Cuffing Season
Since we're heading into cuffing season, you might be thinking about warming up those colder nights with something—or someone—special. 🍂❤️
So, if you're ready to add some “pumpkin spice” to your love life, consider yourself covered. Check out these resources to get started...
If you're ready to uplevel your love life...
Take the Sex Life Reset course
Use the Create Your Own User's Manual workbook
(This is the process I followed to “call in” my partner!)
Read The Definitive Guide to Dirty Talk: For Shy People
And, of course, you can always book a call with me.
Questions? Feel free to reach out to me.