Under the Covers: A Tale of Morning Intimacy and Humor

Today, I want to be a little more personal than usual and share a glimpse into my weekend mornings with Ragnar, my partner. These moments, simple as they are, capture the essence of intimacy and connection I often discuss in my sex and relationship coaching work.

Mornings with My Maulwurf

Ragnar, who barely can open his eyes in the morning, reminding me of a 'Maulwurf' (that's 'mole' in German). He wakes up in his own sweet time on weekends. He's not one to spring out of bed; instead, his awakening is a gradual, almost poetic process. It's during these moments that I often find myself admiring the little things – like the adorable poses he makes while sleeping, sometimes with both arms above his head, resembling a 1940s pinup poster.

The Spark of Playful Intimacy

How do I know when Ragnar is truly awake? Well, it starts with a suggestive joke, a telltale sign of his consciousness returning. This morning, as I lay next to him, scrolling through my phone and waiting for him to stir, I shared my observations of his sleep poses. His response, with one eye half-open, was a humorously self-deprecating “Mut zu Hässlichkeit” – the courage to be ugly, or rather, the ease of being oneself, unguarded.

A Splash of Humor

Our conversations in these waking moments are sprinkled with playful banter. Today, as he accidentally sprayed a bit of spittle on my arm while chatting, I playfully exclaimed, “Ick, you just got my arm wet.” To which he, half-awake, responded with a kiss on my arm and a cheeky, “Just the arm?” Making sex jokes? Yep, he’s awake.

The Essence of Our Connection

Interactions like these are commonplace for us. They represent the ease and comfort we share – a comfort that allows for playfulness in even the simplest of interactions. It’s this level of comfort and playfulness that I aim to help my clients find in their relationships. It’s about being able to be your true self, to share moments of light-heartedness, and to find joy and intimacy in the everyday.

As we go about our lives, let's not forget the power of these small, shared moments. They are the threads that weave the tapestry of intimacy and connection in our relationships.

Wishing you all the mornings filled with little moments of joy and connection.

xxoo,

Lanae