We Made Sex the Main Event and Lost the Plot

Why we deserve more ways to connect than just sex

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about a situation that came up recently in coaching, how sex became the go-to shortcut for connection in modern relationships.

Not because it's wrong, but because it's… limited. And that limitation leaves so many people feeling broken when sex slows down, shifts, or stops.

I just wrote about this on my blog—it’s the first in a 3-part series—and I want to invite you into the conversation. Most folks use Substack for full essays, but I’m keeping it light here and saving the full story for my site.

Think of this post as the flirty hello before the main event. If you’re curious, come join me over there for Part 1 of the series.

It’s called:

Sex Isn’t the Only Way to Connect: Why We Need a Better Map for Intimacy

I hope it gives you a breath, a little relief, or a reminder that you’re not broken, you're navigating a culture that gave you a pretty limited map.

I’ll be back on Monday with Part 2, which is for the parents, because sleep deprivation and spit-up don’t exactly scream “let’s get it on.”

xxoo

Lanae