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Why we feel the need to couple up in winter
The science behind cuffing season
If you're single and dating during the wintertime, you may have noticed that people seem to couple up more during this season. This phenomenon even has a name: Cuffing Season. But why does cuffing season exist? Why do we feel the need to cozy up to someone in winter? Turns out, there are some science-ish explanations for Cuffing Season. So if you're curious about why some folks feel so compelled to find a partner this winter, read on! You might be surprised by what science has to say about Cuffing Season.
What is Cuffing Season?
In North America, winter is playfully known as Cuffing Season. It's the time of year between October to February when people feel the need to be in a relationship, even if they're happy being single. The term was first coined by Urban Dictionary in 2010, and has steadily gained mainstream traction.
Why does Cuffing Season happen?
There are a few ideas for why this happens. One theory is that colder weather leads to increased feelings of loneliness and isolation, which in turn makes us more likely to seek out relationships as a way of combatting those feelings. Another possibility is that the shorter days and longer nights of winter play a role in our desire to snuggle up with a partner; vitamin D levels drop in winter, which can lead to feelings of fatigue or mood changes like depression. Some folks believe cuffing season exists because people don't want to be alone during the holidays and want to have an assured date for holiday parties, so if you feel like cuddling up with someone this winter, you're not alone.
The Challenges of Cuffing Season
If you find yourself wanting to couple up (because, I mean, it *is* getting cold outside), ask yourself why - what's behind the desire? Is it a feeling of being left out? Or feeling alone? Are you genuinely interested in the person you're dating, or is there some other reason? It's important to be honest with yourself, as Cuffing Season can sometimes lead people into unhealthy relationships that they wouldn't otherwise enter into. That being said, there's nothing wrong with wanting to find a partner to cuddle with during the cold winter months. Maybe that's what they want too. Just make sure that you're communicating and doing it for the right reasons.
Cuffing Season Survival Tips
Just because it's Cuffing Season doesn't mean you have to jump into a relationship. If you're not ready for one, that's perfectly OK. There are plenty of other things to do during this time of year. Here are a few tips:
- Stay busy. If you're busy with work, school, or other commitments, you'll be less likely to feel lonely.
- Get involved in your community. There are plenty of events and activities happening during the winter months. Getting involved will help you meet new people and stay busy.
- Spend time with friends and family. They can be a great support system to help you feel loved and supported.
- Get out and explore your city. There's no better time to do it than during the winter months. Take a walk, go ice skating, or visit a gallery or new restaurant.
- Focus on self-care. Make sure you're taking care of yourself emotionally and physically. This will help you feel your best.
Tips for dating during Cuffing Season
If you're hoping to find a partner during Cuffing Season (or any other time of year), there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of finding love. One thing you can do right now is get my "Create Your Own User Manual Workbook" and fill it out to get clarity on what you're looking for in a partner. This will help you communicate your needs and wants to potential partners and weed out those who aren't a good match for you. Be intentional and set a goal for yourself: What do you hope for this season? How will you know if you’ve found someone you want to spend more time with? Once you have a plan in mind, it'll be easier to take action and make dating a fun, enjoyable experience.
Cuffing Season doesn't have to be about finding a partner to spend the rest of your life with. You can totally choose to date around, have some fun, and learn more about what you're looking for in a partner. But if you're feeling the urge to couple up this winter, jump in! Just remember to be safe, set your intention, and most importantly, enjoy yourself.
What are your thoughts on Cuffing Season? Have you ever been in a relationship during this time of year? Let me know in the comments below!